5 Mindsets That Sabotage Your Success


The word “mind” appears in scripture 142 times. God cares about what we think. He knows our thought life directly impacts our actions or lack thereof. There are things God desires to do in your life but your mindset can hinder them. This is why the bible emphasizes the importance of renewing our minds. Here’s one popular verse you’ve likely heard before:

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is–his good, pleasing and perfect will.” -Romans 12:2, NIV

You see, God and the enemy are after our thought life. We can conform to the world by thinking like the enemy or we can learn God’s will, his good, pleasing and perfect will for our lives by thinking more like Him.

My goal here at The Best You, is not for you to simple do what’s necessary for success, I desire for you to be who God is calling you to be inwardly. So… it’s important to tackle mindset. Here are 5 common mindsets that the enemy uses to hinder or completely sabotage our success.

1.The Glass Half Empty

“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.” -Philippians 4:8, ESV

Do you tend to see the worse in people and circumstances? You may be a “glass half empty” type of person. These type of people focus on the negative and not enough on the positive. However, this is completely contrary to what scripture encourages us to do. Our minds should be focused on things that true, honorable, just, pure, lovely and commendable. Otherwise, when we think on lies, things that are false and dishonorable we are essentially partnering with the enemy in our thought life and create room for him to do what he loves to do best – steal, kill and destroy.

2.Being a Perfectionist

“But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” 2 Corinthians 12:9, NIV

Do you think you have to be perfect as you pursue your dreams and tackle your goals? Are you afraid to make mistakes? It fathoms me how God is so willing to give us grace but we struggle at times to give ourselves grace. We’re human and humans make mistakes. It’s okay that you have weaknesses. Actually, God loves our weakness, that’s when he is able to show Himself strong. Allowing God to work through your weaknesses actually gives Him glory. When you try to do everything perfectly on your own, without God, we end up putting things off again and again, trying to get it right ourselves. What God desires is for you to be honest and say, “God, I’m struggling and I need your help” and to keep moving in faith. You’ll be surprised what God does through your imperfections and weaknesses.  

3.People Pleasing

For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.” -Galatians 1:10, ESV

It’s impossible to please everyone. If you feel the need to seek approval from people, then your self-esteem may need a little work. Our approval comes from God and our desire should primarily be to please Him. Seeking approval from any and everyone will certainly hinder and slow you down as you pursue your life’s mission.


Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else” – Galatians 6:4, NIV

Comparing your life to the lives of others is an unfair way to measure your worth or level of success. No two people have the same story, gifts, abilities or calling, so why compare yourself to someone else?  Not only is it an unhealthy mindset, but it can also lead to bitterness, jealousy and resentment toward others if you allow it. When God created you, He didn’t compare you to someone else. He is a creative God and created you uniquely. If you feel the need to compare your life to anything, compare it to the unique plans God has for you, not the plans he has for your neighbor.

5.Never Getting over Your Past

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.” – Proverbs 3:5-6, ESV

Past events, hurts, and mistakes have a way of affecting us in the present, if we allow it. It’s important to learn from our past but not get stuck in it. People who struggle learning lessons from their past, moving on and forgiving, end up imprisoned in their mind. We have to trust God and not lean on the reality of our past experiences. We have to keep our focus on God and not on the things of our past, this is when He is able to make our paths straight.

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Aleida Lane teaches women of faith how to prosper from the inside out by growing spiritually and building happy/healthy homes & businesses. She’s also a pastor’s wife, mommy & founder The Best You Blog & Boutique.

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Aleida Lane teaches women of faith how to prosper from the inside out by growing spiritually and building happy/healthy homes & businesses. She's also a pastor's wife, mommy & founder The Best You Blog & Boutique.
  1. Reply

    Great list, I definitely struggle with number three and four a lot of the time, and the others sometimes. I loved the bible verses you chose to help combat these mindsets.

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    Hi Aleida,
    Great post. I especially love this verse: “Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else” – Galatians 6:4, NIV and what you said, that we should compare ourselves to God’s unique plan for ourself. Excellent point!
    Again, I say this is a great post and timely for many women as we don’t have it all together…still works in progress!
    Blessings to you today!

    • Sydney Meek
    • June 1, 2017

    I love your post! These truths are convicting but they bring so much hope. I definitely struggle with some if not all of these, and this post brightened my day!

    Sydney Meek

  3. I was just talking with my mentor about holding myself to ridiculous standards while offering grace to everyone else. Sometimes the beauty of where we are is the struggle. I’m trying to remember that the perfectly polished picture isn’t always the one that draws the most attention.

    • Erin
    • June 12, 2017

    Being a perfectionist and being a people pleaser are definitely where I fall. I often put everyone else before myself even when I know that there is something God has asked me to do. I don’t do it consciously but I wind up putting everyone else’s needs before the calling that my Father put upon me.

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    Well my pastor would probably tell you that I’m mindset #1 🙂

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    Aleida, these are all so true. We can’t be effective in our walk with Christ or in allowing Him to grow us, if we are holding onto the past, or trying to be people pleasers and so on. Very pertinent post! – Amy

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    This list is so great and very true. I struggle with perfectionism and people pleasing. I always have and it is something difficult to overcome that I pray about and work on daily. These things do actually hold you back, but they can be overcome.

  7. This pretty much covers some of the most important concepts in becoming truly obedient to Christ. Excellent post!

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    This is such a solid list. Really though. It’s so sad when people have such negative mindsets. Don’t they know that their thoughts and words can determine their future?

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    Being a perfectionist has been my most difficult trait to overcome. I’ve learned that not everything has to be exactly how I think it should be. Sometimes I can step away hours before and have a great product and spend my time on something more meaningful.

    • Tami
    • July 11, 2017

    Perfectionism and worrying about what other people thought have sabotaged my success and ability to make decisions for way too long. Now that I am in my 40’s, I have finally found my worth and tossed these mindsets aside.

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    Number 3 and 4 definitely hit home with me. So thankful for the hope of Christ, I do not measure up to Him (not even on the scale!) but I have His righteousness. Thats beautiful and empowering for success!

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