Feeling Overwhelmed? 5 Tips to Find Better Balance in Life
Are you feeling a little overwhelmed? Are you bogged down with the cares of life? Ooooh, I can sympathize and relate. I remember as a child my mother used to warn me not to grow up too fast and enjoy my childhood. I didn’t understand it then but now I realize being an adult come with a lot responsibility and at times it can be challenging and even overwhelming.
As a full-time working mother, pastor’s wife and visionary building my God-given dreams; time and energy are hot commodities around here. Not that long ago I found myself living off of fumes and close to mental break down (I’m exaggerating but it felt like it). I had to step back and take a good look at myself and life and figure out a system that works for me.
My friend, balance is key!
Balance is different and unique for every woman, so what works for one person may not for you. As women we are so multifaceted. God has given us the heart and ability to do so many things. There’s so much going on; our family’s, bills, our desire to serve and help others, plus we need time for ourselves and God. Whew!
The following tips will help you create a system in your life to find better balance.
First thing, first. To come up with a solution for anything, you’ll have to have a clear picture of the problem. Girlfriend, you have to self-evaluate! There are 8 primary areas of life that we innately try to balance for survival and fulfillment. These areas include; our relationship with God, work, money, our living environments, personal growth, health/self-care, community, and family. Just reading those may feel overwhelming but honestly, how are you balancing all of these areas? Whether you realize it or not you’re naturally trying to. It’s important to reflect and take a look at where you are currently today.
To help you with this download my T.B.Y Wheel of Life printable. This will help you assess and define the gap between where you are today and where you want to be. You’ll clearly be able to see where your life is out of balance. This will allow you to strategize and put together a thorough plan.
2.Matthew 11:28-39 is True
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” –Matthew 11:28-29
Alright, but before you go off and try to make a plan for yourself it is key to invite God in on how you’re feeling and what you’re dealing with. God cares! If He didn’t He wouldn’t promise to give rest to those who feel exhausted and overloaded (mentally or physically) in life. God is willing to exchange your heaviness for Him. When we carry Him fully in our hearts and not worry, stress, etc things start to feel lighter. He’ll penetrate your heart with His comfort, peace and love if you allow Him to. Isn’t He just amazing!
3.And Matthew 11:30 is True too!
“For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” –Matthew 11:30
One misconception of balance is that we are eveningly giving attention to everything in our lives. However, balance is a healthy juggle between all of your responsibilities in life. For example, a new mother may give more attention to her family, and less to her career and/or ministry for a season. Is that wrong? NO, that’s balance!
Ask God what your priorities and focus should be in your life right now. Something may need to be placed on the back burner for a little while and that’s okay! The things God is asking of you should come easy and not feel heavy, for his yoke is easy and his burden is light.
What I did was list all of my responsibilities, even the simple things like laundry and dishes, and prioritized them. I asked God what I could and should let go of and started crossing things off. It felt amazing to visually see time added back to my week.
4.Develop a Plan
For me part of my overwhelm came from not thinking ahead. 6’oclock would roll around and I would have no plan for dinner. Yikes! I’ll look in the fridge and there was always some ingredient missing from every meal I would think of. Next comes, “Babe, do you want to eat out?”
Can you relate?
Taking a little time out your day, week or month (whatever works for you) to plan ahead is well worth it. Now, I create bi-weekly menu (with shopping list) and a cleaning schedule. Boy’ this helps so much.
5.Consider Getting a Life Coach
Oh, how I love my life coach and the life coaching profession. I remember working with my life coach to figure out how I can spend more quality time with God. Sounds like a simple problem, right? There was so much going on in my life that I my quality time alone with the Lord was almost nonexistent. I’ll never forget these word, “I’m so surprised I didn’t think if that sooner,” when I identified a solution to my problem. A good life coach will ask you the right questions and help you explore your life in a way you didn’t already see it. That’s exactly what happened me! If you’re still feeling overwhelmed after giving the first four tips a try. Consider hiring a life coach to help you navigate things.