4 Reasons Why Celibacy in the 21st Century is So Important
Today, we are living in a society where the practice of celibacy is not the norm and is seen as an outdated thing of the past. Not only in the secular world, but also in the lives of many Christian believers. Many Christians hold the same beliefs of those in the world which is the notion that you should test drive the vehicle before making the purchase. This is a very true statement, if you’re looking to buy a new car. However, if you are looking to find a mate and enter into a lifelong covenant honoring God with your marriage, you should not see your future spouse as a car or any other object that you can buy. They are much more valuable than that. Also, God is faithful to meet all your needs, including your sexual needs (once married) when you honor Him.
We hear the argument against celibacy about how times have changed and so on. I agree, times have changed. There are less and less people who are actually making the commitment to get married. Sexually transmitted infections are on the up-rise and more and more women are left to raise children on their own. These are the changing times we are living in. As Christians, we have to desire more. We have to set ourselves apart and be a light to the world. God’s desire for us to remain celibate until marriage is rooted out of His love and protection towards us. He knew the consequences that could occur as a result of engaging in sexual practices before marriage.
Seeing these consequences manifest in the lives of different women in my life and generation is what led me to write this blog. Many people may dismiss the idea of practicing celibacy for multiple reasons. Some say, they have to know how someone is in bed before they commit themselves to them for the rest of their lives. Others believe they just can’t control themselves enough to stay celibate before marriage. Then there are the group of people who believe that since they’ve already started having sex before marriage, there’s no point in stopping now because the damage is done. The thing is, you can control yourself, through God’s grace, to remain celibate and God definitely honors your change of heart to remain celibate until marriage even if you have already lost your virginity. I made a decision after I lost my virginity at seventeen to remain celibate until marriage and I have experienced so many blessings poured into my life as a result of that decision. I was celibate for nine years until I married my husband. My life with my husband is awesome and our marriage is so blessed because of it. I really want this for all of my sisters and brothers in Christ. I’m tired of seeing people around me emotionally hurt, struggling as a single parent, or getting treatment for some sexually transmitted infection as a result of practicing a lifestyle of sex before marriage. Here are 3 reasons why I believe it is a good idea to remain celibate until marriage.
I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own gift from God, one of one kind and one of another. To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am. But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion – 1 Corinthians 7:7-9 ESV
1.Celibacy Honors God
God has given us the command throughout scripture to honor Him and our bodies by not engaging in sexual activities before marriage. This section may not mean anything to non-believers because the desire to honor God has not been placed in their heart. As Christians, we should have a desire to honor God by being obedient to His word. It’s so disheartening to see Christians carelessly choose to not honor God in this area. They know what the word says concerning this area and they still choose to disobey it. I’m not talking about believers who slipped up and fell into temptation. I am referring to Christians who side with the world’s views on “test driving the car before making the purchase” despite what they know the word says. God is such an awesome God and He deserves our obedience and our honor. His blessings for our lives are so great once we decide to honor Him with our bodies. Also, it is very dangerous to know God’s word and consciously decide to disobey it.
For if we go on sinning deliberately after receiving the knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for sins – Hebrews 10:26 ESV
2.Protection From Sensually Transmitted Infections
God knew the consequences of sexual immorality before He gave us the command not to engage in it. He knew how detrimental HIV, AIDS, and other sexually transmitted infections were. God wants to protect us from that. He does not take pleasure in His children suffering from sickness and disease so He tries to prevent us from it in through this route by giving us the command to remain sexually pure before marriage. I have seen so many women contract sexually transmitted infections because they chose to engage in sexual activity before marriage with men that they thought they could trust. Your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit and should be treated as such.
Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body – 1 Corinthians 6:18-20
3.Protection From Being A Single Parent
Engaging in sexual immorality before marriage sometimes yields the consequence of becoming a single parent. Single parenthood have contributed to a handful of issues in today’s society. Some include financial hardships, identity crisis in children, and psychological problems. God never meant for one parent to raise a child or for children to be raised in multiple households. I have witnessed the effects this has on children and the chaos this causes. God is a God of order and never meant for us to live a chaotic and unstable life. If you are a single parent, this section is not to condemn you. God is a loving and forgiving God and as soon as you asked for forgiveness He forgave you. There are many people who decide to no longer attempt to practice celibacy after they have a child out of wedlock. It goes back to the belief that “the damage is already done.” This is not true. Your child(ren) can witness their parents making a decision to honor God in their relationship and in their bodies even after falling into temptation. You can still be an example for your children.
4.Protection From Soul Ties
Some people may read this article up to this point and say I can just protect myself during sex and that can protect me from sexually transmitted infections and having a child out of wedlock. This could be true. But, they have failed to create a method of protection from soul ties and emotional hurt. When you engage in sexual activity with another person, you are chemically binding yourself to their DNA. This is made possible through a hormone that is released called oxytocin. Also, from a spiritual aspect, you are attaching your spirit to theirs and vice versa. Some people cannot figure out why they can’t leave certain people alone even after they are mistreated by the individual. It is because you have a soul tie with this person. There are some soul ties that are so strong only God can break. Soul ties can cause you to think irrational and live a life on a much lower level than God intended for you. I have seen soul ties destroy some people’s entire lives. It is not worth it. God wants you in a stable relationship of peace that honors Him. He has that relationship waiting for you if you will allow Him to guide your life.
These are just a few reasons why I believe it is a good idea to practice celibacy before marriage. I made a decision myself to remain celibate until marriage even after I lost my virginity at the age of seventeen. I was celibate for nine years. It became more difficult when I began dating my boyfriend (who turned out to be my husband). Temptation came left and right but we remained strong in the Lord and now have the testimony of saying that we honored God in our courtship. I’m not minimizing the fact that practicing celibacy takes a lot of self control, but with God’s grace, all things are possible. I plan on writing a second blog on how we remained celibate. The life I live today with my husband is totally worth the sacrifice we made to honor God with our bodies. He continues to bless our lives and marriage day by day and I truly believe it is because we chose to honor Him in our courtship.
Remember, it’s never too late to honor and obey God as long as you are living and breathing on this earth. The harvest is so worth it!