6 Tips To Happily Get You Through Your First Year of Marriage
Butterflies filled your stomach as you patiently awaited the moment you would marry the man of your dreams. You waited long enough and your time had finally come around for you to get your fairytale ending. I mean, isn’t that what happens in the movies? The guy sweeps the girl off of her feet, marries her, the end. Then we call this a “fairytale ending.” Truth is, in reality this is not the ending, it is only the beginning.
The movies don’t tell you what to do after the wedding bells are no longer ringing, the rice blows away, and the guests have all went home and here you are, hand and hand with a man you vowed to spend the rest of your life with. Most people believe that the first year of marriage is the worst because it is the occurrence of two worlds clashing together to form one. Contrary to popular belief, this does not have to be true for your marriage. Here’s six tips to happily get you through your first year of marriage and hopefully help you throughout your lifelong journey together.
1.Center your marriage around God.
God and His word is the foundation of marriage and without building your marriage on the right foundation you make your marriage vulnerable to things that can destroy it. It is important to maintain your own individual relationship with God as well as your corporate relationship with God and your husband.
“If you work the words into your life, you are like a smart carpenter who dug deep and laid the foundation of his house on bedrock. When the river burst its banks and crashed against the house, nothing could shake it; it was built to last.” –Luke 6:48-49 MSG
2.Erase “The Ideal Marriage” Image Out Of Your Head
Don’t covet or compare your marriage to other people’s marriages. You don’t know what seeds or sacrifices they’re sowing to reap the harvest that you desire to see in your own marriage. What may work for one marriage, may not work for the next. So let’s focus on keeping our own grass mowed and watered so it can be just as beautiful as our neighbors’. The only image that you should be getting for your marriage is from the word of God. He has clear teachings in His word concerning the marriage relationship.
3.Choose to Love
Love is not a feeling. It isn’t anything you fall into or out of. It’s a choice. You can choose to walk in the God kind of love He describes in 1 Corinthians 13 or you can choose to be led by your feelings/emotions. True love is one sided. This means that regardless of what your partner is doing, out of obedience to God, you are going to choose to walk in godly love.
4.Refuse to Be a Nagging Wife
The Bible encourages us to build one another up instead of tearing each other down. When you nag your husband, complaining about the things they do or don’t do, you are essentially tearing him down and feeding that challenge or bad habit he is struggling with. Make a choice today to be a wife that builds her husband up instead of tearing him down.
5.Trust the Process
As soon as you got married, you became one with your husband in the spirit. However, it takes time to become one with one another in the flesh. You were made righteous in the spirit through Christ when you accepted Jesus into your life but God still had to take you through the sanctification process. Marriage is the same way. It is a coming together and becoming one. This is a process that we must allow to run it’s perfect course. You have to sow seeds of time, unconditional love, and patience into your marriage until you two become one in every area.
Keep your relationship new and have fun with one another. Be sure to continue to date, travel, and explore new things. You don’t always have to wait for your husband to take you out or think of something to do. If you like going out places, don’t be too proud to be the planner most of the time.
Pray This Short Prayer:
Thank you for blessing me with a mighty man of God and a godly marriage. I give my marriage to you to manage because I know I cannot manage it in my own ability. Grace us to love one another and keep you first forever. I stand in faith on your word that says if I put you at the foundation of my marriage that it will be able to withstand anything that comes its way. Thank you for a fun, happy, purposeful and lasting marriage. In Jesus name. Amen.