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5 Tips to Get Through Valentine’s Day Single

Roses are red, violets are blue, Valentine’s Day is coming, Lord where is my beau?

It’s that wonderful time of the year when couples all around the world express their love towards one another with romantic gestures, kind words, and extravagant outings. That’s all great, unless you’re the girl who is alone on Valentine’s Day with no plans, scrolling down social media watching all your friends enjoy their romantic evenings and sparkling gifts.

Don’t let one day cause your emotions to run haywire. It can be extremely difficult to watch friends and their spouses or significant others enjoy each other on this day. It is difficult scrolling through social media with a front row seat watching everyone’s highlight reel. The thing is, that’s all you’re seeing is their highlight reel. You don’t see that season of singleness that woman was in where she sought God concerning who to marry and allowed herself to be pruned into the woman she needed to be to be fit for her husband.  Neither do you see the seeds of obedience and sacrifice she is sowing to reap the harvest of a good godly marriage. Truth is, your grass can get just as green as hers if you put the time into watering it and trust God’s timing.

Here’s a few tips to get you through Valentine’s Day:

Tip 1: Stay off of social media.         

Social media is not the place to be if you’re feeling lonely on Valentine’s Day. It may heighten those feelings of loneliness and also cause you to step into coveting what someone else has.

Tip 2: Leave your exes where they are.

Do not try to reach out to or respond to any ex boyfriends or guys that you know God told you to leave alone for the sake of having a Valentine. Don’t step into disobedience in the name of “Valentine’s Day.” It’s not worth it.

Tip 3: Spend time with God.

Let God be your date. Until you allow that void to be filled by Him and His presence, it will remain there. No man can fill that void you’re feeling. A man will never measure up. You will require more and more of him thinking that he can fill a void that only God can fill.  A man will not and cannot complete you. Even the husband that God sends you won’t have the capacity to complete you, he will be sent to compliment you but your completion should come through Christ.

Tip 4: Rejoice.

Be happy for your friends who are in successful and godly relationships.

Do not allow the enemy to cause you to walk in covetous or envy. Rejoice as if it were you and understand that that is the portion God dealt to them and He has a very special portion just for you.

Tip 5: Prepare

Use this season to allow God to prepare you as a wife. Many times we think that we are ready for God to send  our “Boaz” but yet have no clue what we would do with him once he does. See what the Bible says in Proverbs 31 about a virtuous woman and if there are areas that you can come up higher in.

Pray this prayer:

Lord, I repent of any feelings of covetous that I may have felt for my friends’ relationships. I pray that you continue to bless their relationships and marriages. I thank you for the special portion that you have dealt to me. I thank you for this season of growth. Transform me into the woman that you have created me to be. You are enough for me. Your presence is enough. I ask that your grace cover me in this season. I pray that as your are preparing me for my husband and he for me, that you get the glory for our season of singleness as well as well as our marriage. Let your perfect will be done in my life. In Jesus name. Amen.

Hi guys, I’m Sharnae, one of the bloggers for “The Best You.” It is a pleasure to be able to share with you all of the great things that God places on my heart to write about. Writing has been such a passion for me for so long. “The Best You” has given me the opportunity to be able to put that passion into action.

It is my hope that as I share with you my experiences as a Christian, wife, and nurse, it increases your desire to live a God focused life that draws you closer to God as you are discovering The Best You.

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Hi guys, I'm Sharnae, one of the bloggers for “The Best You.” It is a pleasure to be able to share with you all of the great things that God places on my heart to write about. Writing has been such a passion for me for so long. “The Best You” has given me the opportunity to be able to put that passion into action. It is my hope that as I share with you my experiences as a Christian, wife, and nurse, it increases your desire to live a God focused life that draws you closer to God as you are discovering The Best You.
  1. Reply

    one thing you can do is to celebrate the other LOVES in your life. those that have impacted your heart like no other! – post that on social media, share it and you’ll not only encourage your heart, but theirs as well

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      Marie, that’s a great idea! God has blessed us with so many other amazing nonromantic relationships that deserves to be celebrated as well!

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    All great advice for anyone feeling left out on this “holiday.” It’s important to remember that we are always loved by God! I especially love your prayer.

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      Andrea, so happy it blessed you! Yes, you’re so right! It is very important to remember God’s love for us!

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    Such good advice. Even us “old timers” who have been married for a while can become disheartened when spouses are not attentive for various reasons. This is good advice for all of us. Thank you. – Amy
    http://stylingrannymama.com/

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      Amy, you are so right! This is a concept we can also apply to our marriage relationships!

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    This is one thing I’m grateful I don’t really have an issue with – i’m gonna do what i’m gonna do every day – and that’s spend time with God

      • Sharnae
      • February 6, 2017
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      That’s great Andrea! Happy you found out for yourself the importance of spending time with God on a daily basis!

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    Last couple of years my friends and I started celebrating together whether we were single or in a relationship! It was alot of fun to just hang out with your girlfriends!

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    Great and gentle advice. God loves us so much.

    • Queenie
    • February 7, 2017
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    Thank you for this!! Great read for us singles out here waiting on the man God has for us.

    • Ro
    • February 7, 2017
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    This is so true – especially leaving exes where they are. When I was single, I definitely remember the temptation to check them out and see what they were doing, which was incredibly unhealthy and harmful for me. I also love the idea of spending time with God as I believe that’s important in singleness and in marriage!

  7. Reply

    Great tips! I would even suggest showering others with live in some way like painting nails in a nursing home or finding a widow to cheer up.

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