4 Ways to Reap Blessings through Your Words
It’s funny how the popular saying, “Sticks and stones may break your bones but words will never hurt you” was instilled in us all as children.” When I think of this statement, I almost compare it to being told that Santa Clause and the tooth fairy were real. It’s one of the biggest lies that parents unintentionally tell their children as a defense mechanism to deal with bullying. However, I have seen words pierce people deeper than a sword and leave wounds that take a lot longer to heal than a broken bone. Words definitely have the potential to hurt people. Words can be used to hurt other people as well as hurt ourselves.
“Even so the tongue is a little member, and it can boast of great things. See how much wood or how great a forest a tiny spark can set ablaze! And the tongue is a fire. [The tongue is a] world of wickedness set among our members, contaminating and depraving the whole body and setting on fire the wheel of birth (the cycle of man’s nature), being itself ignited by hell.” –James 3:5-6 AMPC
Here’s four ways we can make the best use of the words that come from our mouths.
1.Refuse to Be a Part of Gossip
As Christians it’s very important to take inventory of what we are allowing to come out of our mouths and make sure we aren’t the tiny sparks setting the fire ablaze. We cannot continue to partake in the useless, empty, vain conversations and gossip that we were apart of when we were in the world. I cannot tell you how many bible believing, church going, on fire for God Christians there are who engage in such useless conversations and gossip. We gossip as the world gossips but then we try to spiritualize it by calling it something else. These conversations usually start with, “Girl, I need you to pray for so and so because she…” or “Girl pray for me because so and so did x, y, and z.” Then it turns into discussing someone else’s business or reliving a past offense. This is sometimes used as a lead-way to tell someone else’s business or share our opinions about a situation that has nothing to do with us. If God didn’t specifically call you to that person, then that person’s name or business has no purpose on your lips other than in prayer. God has called us to a higher standard than that of the world. We must come up higher and refuse to engage in gossip. This may require us to remove ourselves from some of our little Christian cliques and friends that are known to engage in gossip if they cannot respect our refusal to gossip with them.
For lack of wood the fire goes out, and where there is no whisperer, quarreling ceases- Proverbs 26:20
If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person’s religion is worthless- James 1:26
2.Refuse to Tear People Down With Your Words
Words are swords, no matter how you use them. Either they can be used negatively as a sword to pierce the hearts of people for hurt or they can be used positively as a sword to destroy the enemy. However there are many Christians misusing their swords. They are using them to tear down their brothers and sisters in Christ. Instead of overlooking offenses and suffered wrongs as the bible tells us, we rather take the eye for an eye route to satisfy our pride. We engage in arguments where we intentionally say things to hurt other people so that they can essentially hurt like we were hurt. How do you think that makes God feel to hear His children tearing each other down like that? To see husbands and wives, parents and children, brothers and sisters, ripping each other apart with their words. He wouldn’t be pleased. God loves all of His children and desires for us all to live in unity and on one accord with one another. We were all created in His image, and He loves us all dearly and never wants to see a single one of us hurt or mistreated. We have to learn to walk in this same God kind of love for His people in our lives.
The words of a whisperer are like delicious morsels; they go down into the inner parts of the body-Proverbs 18:8
With our tongues we bless God our Father; with the same tongues we curse the very men and women he made in his image. Curses and blessings out of the same mouth! My friends, this can’t go on- James 3:9-11 MSG
3.Use Your Words To Build
I also like to think of words as creative or destructive forces. They have the power to build and they have the power to destruct. As believers, we should be using our words to build up others and ourselves through the word. We should be also using our words to tear down any stronghold, thought, or imagination that attempts to oppose the word of God. Instead, we are tearing down other people and ourselves with negative words. What are you saying about yourself? Is it the same thing God said about you? That you are fearfully and wonderfully made? That you are created in His image? That you are the righteousness of Christ Jesus? That you are the head and not the tail? Above and not beneath? The lender and not the borrower? What kind of things do you say about your spouse? Your co workers? Your boss? Are you building them up or tearing them down? If you are tearing them down just remember, through your words you are building something. It may not be something that is necessarily good or that you desire, but you are still building. Whatever you feed will grow. If you feed those bad habits or unfavorable behavior it is sure to grow. Begin to create the boss, the spouse or the children you desire by building them up with God’s word.
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. -Ephesians 4:29
4.Refuse To Be Involved In Coarse Joking
Many times, we hurt people with our words without even recognizing it. We say something as a joke and unknowingly wound the person who is on the other side of the joke. They may laugh to cover up the fact that they were actually hurt from it. Then if someone does get offended we accuse them of being overly emotional or sensitive. It may be true that they are more sensitive than others but that still does not justify our behavior. We should love as God loves and be sensitive to others’ feelings. Most of the time we use coarse joking as a means to say something that has been on our heart that we didn’t want to address in a serious conversation. We think if we say it as a joke, it won’t sound as rude. Then if the person gets offended, we could always say we were just kidding. It’s no different from what we’ve previously discussed, it’s just doing it in humor.
Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving-Ephesians 5:4 NIV
Our words are a gift from God. It is through our words we have the authority to speak life or death into a situation. We should always make sure we are careful about the things we say about others as well as the things we say about ourselves. In the end, we all will have to give an account for the words that we have spoken. Let’s make sure we can give God a good account. The tongue is something that takes a lot of discipline to tame. Although difficult, all things are possible through Christ. Let’s trust God to help us come up higher in this area and continue to pray that He instructs us on how to make our words pleasing to Him.
Pray This Prayer:
I thank you for your love, grace, and mercy towards me. I ask that you forgive me for any careless word that has been spoken out of my mouth. I cancel any negative word that has been spoken over the lives of others as well as my own life. Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.